On April 27, 2018, I met a man who would become a huge part of my life. On May 22, 2018, we became a couple. On August 4, 2019, he moved in with me. We spent the last 5-ish years building a relationship, nurturing each other, learning the ins and outs of each other, and falling ever deeper in love.
But there is some back story.
In my marriage, back in 2008, we explored opening it up so that I could find a girlfriend, because at the time I identified as a bisexual woman, and wanted to explore the woman-loving part of my identity. That blew up in my face in a bad way, and scared me off of trying that again for a long time.
But in January of this year, I got to craving a woman's touch. I thought about it for a long time, and I realized that my partner, Dawson, has just as much love to give as I do to other people, and so I presented the idea of polyamory to him - each of us exploring relationships outside of our own relationship.
8 months later, and we both have an additional partner, and our communication has gotten better recently than it has been in the last few years. Other things have improved greatly, too, and I feel like this was the best choice for our relationship. I love hearing about the time he spends with his partner, and how they get along, and he asks about mine, and how we get along. I'm still looking for a girlfriend, as my other partner is another man, but it's harder to find a girlfriend as a non binary person than it is as a man or woman, it seems. Or maybe just harder cuz I'm fat lol I am talking to an awesome agender person, though, so I'm not absolutely married to the idea of a "girl"friend, just a non-cis male partner would be nice for a change.
So, yeah, that's how we started exploring polyamory. Monogamy is great for those it works for; it just doesn't really make sense for us anymore.